Building Healthy Relationships: Family, Friends, and Sexuality
Friendship
“Friends”
Children born in the circuit affect the family, but soon establish links with other children. This is the passing of family relations to broader relationships. One very important thing in schools are the friends; those who do not have them feel very unhappy.
Adolescence is a time when the best friend appears. The teenager is looking for ways to seek their freedom, identity, and personality, and friends will help with that. With friends, you talk about important things; a group is very important in your life.
It is inevitable that some of us get along better, but we cannot marginalize or exclude anyone because it is painful to feel isolated.
Positive attitudes to make friends:
• To be as we are
• Listening to others
• Search for fun or interesting things
• Do not think others are better or worse
• Maintain strong our views
• Express what we feel
• Dare to say what we do not like or do not want to do
• Help when needed
• Trust them
What is a good friend?
Sometimes the group can exert undue pressure and bully anyone who wants to stay with it. A group where freedom is limited is merely a bad team.
Some groups are not equal to others. Some will solve problems, and others will get into them.
Our happiness is a process that will depend in part on the relationships we have with others. So, you need to know how to choose friends. A good friend is one who cares about our good and helps us get there.
“Friendship and ethics: Responsibility, justice, and solidarity.”
How should friendship collaborate to build a better world, the common home of mankind? Friendship is very valuable and therefore must be taken care of.
The triangle of friendship:
• Head: The friend is responsible for the other, should help, and not hurt.
• Right: The friend should behave fairly with their friend, without abusing them.
• Solidarity: Friends are appreciated and are more affected by good or bad.
Sexuality
Sexual desire and sexual relations are very important. We are people with a sexed body: men and women.
In adolescence, they receive enough information from friends or media. They also start physical concerns.
The company currently:
All societies have established moral and legal norms to regulate sexuality. Why?
• The relationship between sex and procreation: Fathering a child is important and cannot be done irresponsibly.
• The need to control the sex drive: Uncontrolled animal sexuality.
• The importance of affect in sexuality: Sexuality, unlike any living human being, involves affection.
Sexuality and common ethical project:
Parents are often concerned about the sexuality of their children for various reasons, such as having a baby or getting a disease. Also, they are not emotionally ready.
What principle should guide us in sexuality?
• Responsible Sex: Relationships are free and accepted, knowing the result of the operation.
• Justice and Gender: Justice has to do with respect, for example, not exploiting a person for sex.
• Solidarity and Gender: Human beings have linked sex and feelings, while animals are driven by sexual instincts.
The Family
Of all content in sociological surveys, the most important is family. The family is the nucleus of society; everyone has ties that constitute a single family.
Forms of family unity:
Families have taken various forms over time and cultures:
• The patriarchal and wide family: It was the traditional model until the nineteenth century. It was a hierarchical fashion, where there was a submissive role to the head of the household, and women had a secondary role.
• The nuclear family: The Western family model for two centuries. The core is composed of parents and children living with them. From this, there have been more ways:
? Single Parent: Children living with one parent only for reasons of separation, death, etc.
? Rebuilt: After a divorce, in which the children live with a different partner.
The family as a right and as a project:
Our constitution intended that founding a family is a right, but nobody is obliged to form one.
A family project requires taking a series of decisions. To achieve this, almost always you have to do without something. When two people are one family, it begins with a commitment and a search for happiness and satisfaction.
The Family (II)
The functions of the family:
The family plays key roles in the life of its members and for society.
• The reproductive function: Humans have a long and helpless infancy, requiring a stay with parents. A family is the set of people united by blood and is rooted in procreation.
• The educational function: In the family, learning begins, and the first habits and values are instilled. Although the family has been passing on the education of children to society, the responsibility lies with parents.
• The affective function: Within the family, strong ties are established.
• The economic role: The family has always had a role in helping with survival or economic welfare.
• The role of care: Caring for the elderly or those in need.
The family, the foundation of our happiness:
We want to build a happy society, a desirable world, and for this, we need families to be happy first. Everything that happens in the family has a great influence over our lives. A happy family is one in which all members can live comfortably and develop personal skills, helping them to be happy.
The human family:
The family is the ideal symbol of survival, based on love and mutual aid. Therefore, in different places and situations, it has been used to refer to the image of all humanity:
• The Universal Declaration of Human Rights speaks of respect inherent to all human family members.
• The motto of the French Revolution was equality, liberty, and fraternity, which refers to the brotherhood of all people.
• In many religions, it is also argued that all human beings are members of one family, such as Christianity.
Fathers, Sons, and Brothers
Families experience changes over time. The arrival of the first child, for example, because the couple had a lot of freedom and now have to take care of a third party. When children are infants, education is simple: rely on them, but in adolescence, things are reset.
Educational Styles:
Parents have their own way of educating; there are four different styles:
• Authoritarian: Demanding, rigid, low affective communication between parents and child. Parents demand strict obedience, which takes little account of the feelings of children.
• Responsible: Demanding but warm, the parents know how to set limits but express affection to the child. They distinguish well between the negotiable and non-negotiable.
• Permissive: Warm but not demanding. They allow the child or adolescent to do what they want, resulting in a common adolescent who is self-confident but self-centered.
• Neglect: They do not take charge of education and ignore the responsibilities this entails.
Family: feelings, rights, and duties:
All family members have to behave with:
• Responsibility: Both parents and children; parents meet the needs of the child, and they must obey and enforce the rules.
• Justice: Do not take advantage of the work of others and respect them.
• Solidarity: We need to care, protect, and help each other be happy for the whole family.
The Feelings in Intimate Coexistence
Family life is a source of feeling that can cause a lot of happiness or unhappiness.
“Attachment: Honey, or affection you feel towards someone or something, during the first years of your life establishing emotional ties between parent and child.
“Love to parents: The children love their parents, want to be with them and feel loved. But this image makes them uncomfortable at certain ages, as in adolescence.
“The love of brothers: The feelings between siblings may be surplus or conflicting. Sometimes there is a rivalry that begins with the feeling of envy, but not recognized.
“Loyalty and love
In adolescence, feelings toward other people acquire great importance.
“Loyalty and faithfulness: When we say as a compliment that someone is legal, it is legit.
The fidelity is to fulfill the promises and commitments.
“Love: it has many meanings, one is to learn to analyze what we feel.
How to know if we’re in love?
1.Porque like the person you
2.With are planning to continue in it (it’s not obsessed)
The lack 3.Porque made when she / he is not (but is not worth if you do not stand it when it’s close)
4.Porque when you’re happy about (and respect)
5.Porque to be happy, the other person has to be happy.
Identity: The awareness that a person to be herself and unlike any other
A group: can differences to other signals of identity for themselves.
Justice: Recognizing others the same rights and dignity than we are.
Sex: It is the mechanism of reproduction of all living beings. Also the physical character that differentiates men and women
Sexuality; Larger containing sex and affection. The ability of individuals to express deepest feelings.
Patriarch: most respected person in a group by age or wisdom