Cordial Reason: Dialogue, Relationships, and Happiness
Cordial Reason
Cordial Reason includes elements considered for centuries as an agent, but she did not take part. Cordial comes from “corazom” (heart), the nucleus, the deep meaning each person contains: convictions, beliefs, feelings, and desires that we form during our lifetime.
A) Pre-conditions for Dialogue
These are:
- A certain attraction to the values we are drawn to: justice, freedom, equality, etc.
- A character choosing; we must forge the best possibilities to strive for goals, to control our impulses, and to own ourselves.
- Moral sentiments we experience to avoid violence, seek cooperation, develop compassion, and seek justice.
B) Two Basic Senses of Cordial Reason
To educate the senses that compose cordial reason, we require:
- Sense of justice: To convert our values and beliefs into beliefs that lead us to act and try to live with others in justice.
- Sense of gratuity: We realize that there are things to share with others; goods needed to be happy that are not required: solidarity, affection, friendship, etc.
C) We are Sociable
1 – Troubled Relationships
Our special relations with others can cause problems in diverse areas: family, neighborhood, etc.
The hazards that most often surround our relationships are:
- In our family, conflicts can often arise from our parents seeing us as weak in autonomy and responsibility.
- With friends, problems usually arise more from competition and mistrust.
- In love relationships, difficulties arise when we seek the satisfaction of our desire at all costs: overconfidence, lack of respect, etc.
- With study or work colleagues, conflicts are normally due to the disinterest shown by others and lack of cooperation.
2 – Learning How to Relate
The way to learn to be a person has two fundamental requirements:
- Respect: Consists of validating ourselves and each other as people; we take our conscience that our life and others’ are worthy to be lived and are unique and unrepeatable.
- Affection: Consists of understanding that being human is not only having reason but also feelings and emotions. This requires care, both physically and mentally; in short, affection, without which a person could fall into depression or sadness.
D) Our Privacy
1 – Living Well is Not Feeling Well
Happiness is never assured: many confuse well-being, which consists of having good life conditions, like health, effort and money, success, etc. Instead, well-being and happiness are not the same.
The most common reasons for not feeling well are:
- Having does not mean being much; we have to realize things, goods, etc. do not always make us live better. These things can enslave us but are subordinated to personal construction.
- Sometimes, we lack our own criteria to resolve certain problems, either through lack of creativity or because we lack moral, ideological, or religious coping mechanisms: we can escape reality and create more problems.
2 – Failure with Others and Oneself
Some people lose their taste for life. But to reach this, we must admit life’s problems and the people that affect us. There is no complete human failure, but neither is there complete success. The important thing is to learn all aspects of life with justice and from others.
Human life consists of two dimensions, the world and the self; we must learn that we live, and from the mistakes we commit, and forgive ourselves with justice and happiness.